By: Jana Greene
There are some things that normal people just don’t understand … like an active recovery life.
You can’t really blame them. If I hadn’t the experience with making everything about drinking, I wouldn’t understand either. Recovery Warriors are a hard-core bunch, making everything about getting and staying well.
Recovery, recovery, recovery.
I’m absolutely certain that many people – even those who love us dearly – harbor the secret thought “Get over it, already! You’re sober now….why the obsession with recovery?”
What they don’t know and cannot understand is that we addicts and alcoholics have two speeds only: Active disease or active recovery.
Those are our two only choices.
Yes, you can stay sober without putting a recovery spin on all areas of your life. You can be dry and clean. But in order to grow and thrive in a spirit that you’ve previously pickled and poisoned, you need to find alternate ways of dealing with Life on Life’s Terms, which I think we can all agree is brutal.
Our disease affected everything!
Because everything was about alcohol when I was active in my disease and something had to fill that empty space when I left it’s sorry ass.
Every day you wake with breath in your body, you have two choices.
A) Obsess about your drug of choice – Keep everything about your addiction.
If you are drinking or using and are an addict, this is your default setting. You do it without thinking, even though it’s all you think about. Woven into choosing this choice are the possibilities of destruction, irreparable shame, sickness, and self-hatred. It is too often the route to death, spiritually, mentally, emotionally and even physically.
Most every minute of the day is spent either partaking in your drug of choice, feeling shame for having partaken in your drug of choice, and spending all available energies on obsessing about when you can do it again, which you swear you will never do again each and every time. And then you wake up the next day obsessed with doing it again.
B) Obsess about Recovery – Keep everything about becoming WHOLE
When you make the right choice, you lose your relationship with the abusive spouse of drink or drug. But that is ALL you lose, and when you get far enough away from it, you will more clearly see how abusive your default setting really was.
Doing the work of recovery is a life-long pursuit – just as active addiction was.
It is not a 90-day long stint in rehab, or an event you can attend and then move on to other things. If your sobriety is not nurtured and tended to, your spirit will turn back to it’s default setting of using.
In a victorious recovery life, most every minute of the day is spent maintaining that beautiful gift, learning new and healthy coping skills for dealing with issues, celebrating your clarity and ability to appreciate who God has truly intended you to be. It is time well spent, I promise.
Gratitude fills the space shame used to occupy. Clarity spills into the cracks where denial used to reside.
Recovery affects everything!
There is no magic pill to fix addiction. But there is an antidote to it:
It is active recovery.
It has to become what you are all about.
Who in their right mind would bring their deepest, darkest secrets out into the light for all to see?
Someone who has a story to tell that might help others out of the pit of despair that is obsession with using.
And somebody somewhere needs to know about your recovery story, Recovery Warrior.
What will be your obsession?
2 thoughts on “Why Does Everything Have to be About Recovery?”
Thanks for sharing this, Jana. I haven’t been here for a while and am grateful that I “just happened” to read this post. 😉 I’m so grateful for the many recovery communities available for alcoholics and addicts today . . . places where people understand and choose to “trudge the happy road” of recovery of together.
Me too, Jack! Me too.
I’m grateful for your readership. There are no coincidences 🙂 God bless you!