By: Jana Greene
I never in a million years thought I’d actually be a writer. Oh me of little faith.
I never thought people would read my words, much less follow my blog. But here I am, blessed beyond measure to be able to share my crazy motherhood, marriage, and recovery journeys with people – sometimes total strangers – who can sometimes relate. It’s incredibly humbling and befuddling, this whole blogosphere experience. Weird, yes. But also wonderful.
As C.S. Lewis is quoted as saying, “Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another: What! You too? I thought I was the only one.”
You are never the ‘only one.’ I know I’m not either, which is why I am blogging about this situation.
In the interest of transparency, I think I need to be honest. I’m so embarrassed. I am going through a scary season in my personal life, having resurrected my old starve / binge / purge behaviors as they rear their ugly eating disorder heads. It’s gotten pretty bad and I am sick and scared. I starve myself until I’m famished and then binge to a ridiculous degree. I don’t know how to stop. I’m so ashamed and disgusted with myself because I I cannot seem to control it. It’s happening nightly now, and I wake up so ashamed every morning.
Please don’t hate on me, I’m hating on myself enough already.
Why can I just not get it together, already?! Just be normalsauce for ONE WHOLE DAY….
The little threads of sanity keeping me together are woven of words. Lots of words. Words on this blog. Words in letters and messages to friends. Words – communication – is my saving grace. I had to go through every trial in life alone for a very long time, and I’ve no desire to do this alone. I’ve gotten accustomed to sharing E.S.H. with others.
Isolation is doom for me. But isolation is 100% my default when protecting my secrets. And little thoughts of “It’s no big deal” keep me sick.
Christians can – and do – struggle with the same issues as everyone else on the planet. None of us are immune, and that’s the truth. I wish more people were honest about that. It doesn’t draw anyone to Christ to be ‘perfect’….and I’m surely in no danger of being that.
But I cannot imagine going through this, or anything else, without Jesus by my side. I can feel Him close, even in every storm.
So, yeah. Accountability…..
Hoarding food. Bingeing. Sometimes (only occasionally) barfing as a result. Skipping meals until I’m starving and shaking. Wait until I cannot take it anymore (you know, until I’ve punished myself adequately for the last binge) and repeat the cycle. And throughout the entire cycle, it makes me feel good for about 10 minutes, tops. I feel OK for those 10 minutes and somehow, in my addicted brain, that justifies the whole shebang.
I’m not a stranger to eating disorders. I starved myself down to a tiny weight once because I had zero control over ANYTHING going on in my life at the time, and I could control that, by damn. Except that I clearly could not survive on cigarettes and Diet Coke and any sane person should know that.
I’ve managed to stay sober, and I’m leaning into God. But I’m not in a terrific place right now. Since I blog largely about addiction recovery, I thought it important to share this predicament. I cannot write about sobriety and go sit in my closet and eat my feelings for half an hour until I’m sick. That’s not okay.
I want a good, quality, solid, honest recovery.
I want to be OK. I want to be authentically me as God intended, able to lift others up.
I don’t even just want to be OK. I want to leave this world a better place than when I was first granted this earth-suit and put on mission Earth. I want to love people and be whole, in essence.
I have a sneaking suspicion that the same triggers that set me off drinking are setting me off with this battle. I’m not sure how to do this. Alcohol, you can stay away from that entirely. Food….it’s kind of a necessity.
It’s so much easier not to write about this issue, to just keep it in the closet (literally). But it’s too easy to keep the game going that way.
My name is Jana and I’m a believer in Jesus Christ who struggles with food issues. And a plethora of other assorted challenges. I’ve been sober from alcohol for nearly 15 years, one day at a time, all glory to God.
Here are some words.
I’m putting them out there in the universe for the selfish reason that it is therapy for me to share my struggles, and for the self-less reason that I don’t want you to feel alone if you are going through something similar.
God bless us, everyone.
10 thoughts on “Tasty Feelings, Empty Hole”
Jana, thank you for sharing – for reaching out into the world with your words. I’ve been in your shoes before (also with an eating disorder), and I’ve been through the cycle of illness and recovery and illness. If I can say anything, it’s that there’s always recovery on the other side. You are not at fault. You are not weak. You will be ok. Just know that you have people out there who care about your experience, even complete strangers. ❤
Thank you. Crying. I hate being such an emotional mess. I feel weak and wussy and incompetent. But there is such liberation in just being able to SAY the truth. Thank you so much for your encouraging comment. God bless you ❤
You are so brave! Thank you
Praying for you. Keep holding on to Jesus!
Thank you for prayers! I am holding on. Going to a Celebrate Recovery meeting tonight and those ALWAYS help.
Excellent! I know that will help you!
Jana I agree with the above post – you are so brave. What is that saying – admitting you have a problem is the first step to healing? I applaud you for not hiding in the closet as I know it can’t be easy to put yourself out there and be so vulnerable. I hope you are letting those close to you help as well. Extra prayers to God to reach down and sooth your heart and smooth your path. Many of us out here in blog land may not “know” you, but we know you and care for you just the same. God bless you Jana and thank you.
I’ll tell you what God has said to me, “Don’t stop, keep going. I am right here beside you and I am counting on you. Keep shining your little light.” ~Jesus
Thank you so much for this. It warmed my heart right on the spot. God bless YOU as well. Thank you so much for your readership. I have the kindest, most wonderful readers in all the world!
That sounds about right, Lu. That’s what he encourages me with, too. Thank you so much.